One of the most powerful traits you can ever have is the ability to win people to your side. If you can get into people’s hearts and influence them without necessarily making them wrong about their beliefs, you will have the whole world eating out of your hands.
Learning how to talk to someone’s subconscious mind can get you into alignment with anyone and therefore it gives you the ability to be amongst the ones that have the power of influencing others.
To better understand this illustration, think about the words of former First Lady of the United States, Rosalynn Carter, who said:
A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don’t necessarily want to go, but they ought to be.
From Rosalynn’s words, you would realize that the ability to make people go where they may not want to go, see what they do not want to see, and do what they may not have wanted to do is what defines a true leader.
Also, think about the words of John Maxwell, the bestselling author, and coach who said that “leadership is all about influence“. You do not become an efficient leader when you are sworn into a majestic seat.
You become an efficient leader when you can influence people.
It is okay. You may think that you’re not a leader. You may assume that you’re never going to lead significant communities or corporations, and this illustration may not apply to you.
You may even feel like you’re just a garbage guy, salesman, or cleaner and all of the leadership things aren’t for you. But you must understand that even in your position, you need to influence people.
You have siblings, friends, and relatives who need to see things from your perspective. You get into arguments all the time, and you need people to get the big picture you’re trying to show them.
You want people to accept your thoughts, respect your opinions and let your beliefs sink in their hearts without burning fury on you or themselves.
You need them to approve and accept your philosophies subconsciously. You cannot force your opinions down the throat of anyone and expect magical reactions. They are going to hate you naturally.
You can pause in a moment and think about the person you so hate because they are too bossy and domineering.
To directly adopt the words of Robert Greene, the author of the 48 laws of power:
Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction.
You have to find a way to talk into their subconscious mind without meeting resistance. You need influence.
What Does Talking To Someone’s Subconscious Mind Mean?
This is one of the most complicated questions in human history. It is one thing to force people to obey you. It is a whole different ball game to make people see your perspective and be willing to follow, accept or obey you without force or coercion.
It does not matter whether you’re the president in the oval office in Washington, D.C., or you’re the man on the street who has no home. You need the power to convince people.
You need the capacity to penetrate people’s subconscious minds and get them to do your bidding. And that power does not come from coercion or threat.
It evolves from the ability to structure your words into fireballs that hit straight into your readers’ or listeners’ subconscious minds and cause a permanent effect.
It is birthed by the positive ability to create words that will ditch the conscious part of your listener’s mind and communicate directly with the subconscious.
To get a better picture of how you can work your way into people’s hearts, you need to understand the subconscious mind. And you will get a stronger perception from the next few paragraphs.
The Conscious And The Subconscious Mind
To start with, there are two different segments of the human mind; the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious mind is the logical and analytical one.
It is where information is usually processed, and all the calculation is done. It is the part of your mind that reviews information and decides whether you want to accept or thrash them.
This is where you think about issues and give answers to them. “Mike said he was here last night. Could that be true?” “The robber was mobbed by a wild mob. Does that make sense, or should they all go to jail for it?” “They said there would be no troubles, is that really right?” “Everyone says this dog doesn’t bite. Can I accept that?”
From the simplest to the most complex thoughts processed in your mind, it all happens here. This place is the logical mind where you decide whether something is safe, right, unacceptable or true.
The conscious mind is like a computer that has been processed to do some calculations. Life punched some digits into the calculator, and it immediately decides what should be done with these figures.
Now, it gets interesting. The calculator in your room isn’t functioning as a calculator by coincidence. It has been programmed internally, and it is configured to solve questions in a particular way.
In that same way, the conscious human mind does not work in isolation. It has been programmed, and the programming happens in the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind is the part of the human mind where values are stored. It is the spot where you keep your beliefs, notions, and philosophies.
It is where you reserve your theories of life and principles too. As some psychologists would say: “This is where your Meta Program is reserved”.
Think about this example:
You: Why was Heather arrested at the mall?
A: She stole a can of Dr. Pepper.”
You: A can? Ridiculous. She should be jailed!
Does that sound like you? Maybe. The conscious and the subconscious minds communicate at an extraordinarily swift pace. Your conscious mind got to know that someone stole something and instantly decides whether it is right or wrong.
Before deciding, it consults your subconscious mind to ask, “has Heather done right, should Heather be punished?” et cetera. This illustration is an exact depiction of what happens in our minds.
While the conscious mind does the thinking, the subconscious makes the reservation of values, attitudes, rights, and wrongs.
While you may think that Heather was wrong, someone else would think that Heather should be pampered. You can’t tell exactly why she stole just one can. Maybe it’s not hunger. Maybe it is something more. While you may think that it is terrible to eat other people, communities like Fiji celebrate cannibalism.
The differences happen because different values have been stored in your subconscious mind.
As you can see, the subconscious mind is a potent reservoir. The information reserved in it can determine your approach, attitude, and reaction to life. Usually, information gets into your subconscious mind through your conscious reaction to life.
The subconscious builds its database and values from the information it derives from sense organs; what you feel, taste, smell, see and hear. It builds a complex belief system from the culture, weather, and lifestyle of the people around you.
You can equally force a belief, a notion, or a philosophy into the subconscious mind. This is mind motivational speakers often recommend mantras- repetition of positive quotes till it sticks in the subconscious.
Though, generally, the subconscious mind determines what would be acceptable and unacceptable to you. And anyone who can change it will have the power to make you change your approach, reaction, and attitude to a given situation.
This is the biggest challenge you can ever take on. It is easier to control other animals than humans. It is easier to bark orders at people than working your way into their hearts and arrest it to yourself.
Despite its sensitivity, it is not impossible to talk straight to the subconscious mind of people. You can still seduce people into seeing things in your glasses and willing to champion your cause.
You can altogether avoid being scrutinized by the conscious mind too. You now understand why learning how to talk to someone’s subconscious mind is a priceless question that requires a thoughtful answer.
At this point, you have the chance to start taking a good “look” at ways to talk to the subconscious mind.
They have been adopted and applied by several successful leaders across the world and here they are:
Effective Ways To Talk To Someone’s Subconscious Mind
#1. Mindset Engineering
What does an engineer do? Basically, an engineer will take some time to assess your machine. He’d try to see what is working and what isn’t and then come up with ideas on fixing the problems.
This strategy is among the most efficient ones you can adopt when trying to influence people’s subconscious thoughts. But you should never use it if you are not patient or smart enough to complete the process.
You begin the process by finding out the state of mind of your target. Take some time to understand their perspective. Ask them questions that would prompt them to tell you more about themselves.
Use guiding words like “how, why, what, & when?” to begin your questions, and take mental notes of the responses.
Armed with that information, you can decide how best to approach your target. You can find a way to present information in an unsuspecting format that would appeal to their subconscious and face no criticism.
For example, if I tell you that I am a great woman, you will likely think I am arrogant or telling a lie. But if I tell you that I have founded organizations, worked in corporations, and helped people to attain fulfillment, I wouldn’t need to say that I am a great woman.
But by telling you all these your mind has been engineered to believe that I am a great woman.
Here is another illustration. Let’s assume I realize that I gathered from your response that you love Toyota cars for their gas economy.
I could tell you that we will no longer have to like cars sometime in the future because of their gas conservation. There will be no gas, and we’d better start loving a lot of features like mileage, design, and others in a car.
I didn’t say you were wrong. Yet, I tactfully prompted you to drop the idea that you have always held about Toyota cars. I could make you see strong and convincing reasons you should purchase my product if I were an auto dealer trying to get you to buy a different brand.
This seducing strategy can be applied in every aspect of life. It only requires a lot of patience. It also needs the smartness and sagacity to ask the right questions, take advantage of the answers, and follow through till you close the deal. This system is mainly adopted in the courtroom and cross-examination sessions.
It is a tactical method of hypnotizing your customers and seducing them. It is not shocking that psychologists refer to it as the “conversational Hypnosis”.
#2. Physique Language
Physique language is another technique that can be used to win the heart of anyone. Scientists, artists, and psychologists have come to agree that this is another surefire way of communicating with the subconscious mind.
This is what author Leonard Mlodinow emphasizes by saying that:
Scientists attach great importance to the human capacity for spoken language. But we also have a parallel track of nonverbal communication, which may reveal more than our carefully chosen words, and sometimes be at odds with them.
Basically, Leonard Mlodinow implies that the physique language is one of the systems of communication that has proven record over time. It is a system of communicating non-verbally and directly expecting this person to pick clues from your method.
By way of illustration, it is what you do when you wink at your friends, throw someone a bear hug, or frown when you meet someone. If they were to describe your reaction in words, they might not perfectly describe what you intended by your response. But the central message is always evident.
Throw me a bear hug, and I’ll reckon you’re happy to meet me. Look unhappy, downcast, and disappointed, and I can tell that something is not right with you.
In that same way, auto dealers adjust the tone of their voice, the dilution of their eyes, crease their eyebrows and attempt other body features to pressure you into believing they are telling the truth subconsciously.
Marketers often adopt this strategy. And it is what compels you to purchase a product on many occasions.
According to Jonah Berger, a researcher at Wharton Executive Education:
When people hear someone trying to persuade them, they push back. They react against the message. But when the communication comes in signals, their resistance is broken. They gently concede to the flow. Moreover, it’s not what you say that matters but how you say it; there lies the secret of the ages.
Can you remember sometimes that you were not impressed by the words of the seller, but you were impressed by their enthusiasm? It was him using his physique language to communicate right away with your subconscious mind.
Touching is another efficient and straightforward way to communicate with the subconscious. It is the deliberate act of tapping on the shoulders, arms, or face of the person you are talking to when trying to make a point.
In most cases, people hate to be tapped continuously and bugged by the other person’s hands. But empirical studies have equally shown that you can mildly communicate with people without losing their respect by touching them. All you have to do is ensure that your touch is gentle and swift.
It is also periodic; you should touch them when you are about to prove a point or say something unusual to them.
Here is an illustration:
A: “Are you sure this is real?”
You: “Come on, Johnny, you are going to make cool cash from this business!” (gently taps on Johnny’s shoulder with two fingers or a palm)
There are subtler ways to do this. But the central point is that Johnny’s resistance is going to be weaker with that touch. And the chances of getting him to succumb increases. Again, many times, you are not convinced by the words of whoever convinced you.
It was the non-verbal gyration that did the trick.
Over and above, humans are discreet entities that require unique approaches. We can be unpredictable, and sometimes, a person might understand what you are trying to do before you adopt any of these methods.
Therefore, you must be methodical when you are trying to communicate with the subconscious mind of anyone expressly. By all means, avoid actions that can send signals to the conscious mind. The methods highlighted above will work for anyone.
Again, it would help if you were tactical about their adoption and process. So, everyone, go on and apply these methods.
Talk into the subconscious mind of people and win their hearts!
I hope you get some value from this article and I would be glad to read below how applying this information helped you in any way!